Now Available on Amazon

My book is now available on Amazon!!!

Click on this link to go to Amazon… Footprints in a Small Town

Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think that I would have a book lisPublication2ted on Amazon. The initial sales and feedback from those that have already purchased the book have been wonderful and very exciting.  I am humbled by the responses and I am honored to have so many people tell me how the book has stirred so many memories of their younger years.

I am going to have a book release and signing event soon. I am working on those details and I will let you know when it is scheduled.  I will have a limited supply of books at the event to purchase. If you wish to receive a copy before then and you do not have an Amazon account, just send an email to dlee138227@gmail.com and I will send you details on how you can get a copy from me.

Again… thank you for the kind comments and responses to my book… words will never be able to appropriately convey my appreciation.

 

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Footprints in a Small Town

I am pleased to announce that my book Footprints in a Small Town is officially in the hands of my publisher and will be available on Amazon, Kindle, and other retail outlets in the coming 4 – 6 weeks.

The book is a collection of my stories of growing up in a small town in the 1960s and 70s. I share mPublication2y stories about going to school, playing Little League baseball and the dreams of playing football in high school, swimming at the community pool and the County Fair. I talk about friendship, my family and the tragedy of losing a brother in an accident. These are just a few of the stories.

When I reminisce about my childhood summers, I think of the smell of sun and sweat on my skin after playing outside all day long. I think of the sizzle of sparklers and the big colorful explosions of fireworks with their sulfuric scent lingering in the air on July 4th celebrations.  I remember the way my heart would race when I knew it was a baseball game day. 

I think of cupping my small hands around fireflies and dropping them into mason jars, little pieces of summer I wish I could have treasured forever.

I miss the feeling of pure joy of being flanked by my best friends on our bikes. Experiencing our first taste of freedom and being able to take ourselves anywhere within the town limits, powered by the adrenaline pumping through our veins with each spin of our silver spokes.

I wish I could have bottled all those feelings all those years ago, like those fireflies in a mason jar. To once again feel that youthful freedom and the delicious possibility of how any given night might end. I’d open the lid and breathe in the smallest sample to make it last.

I carry memories of innocence, happiness, joy and at times pain, hurt and loss. They have made me who I am. I have re-traced the footprints that I could find, and I have put them into words. My greatest hope is that, in reading this book, you may be reminded of the special times in your life too, even if some of them were difficult. 

All of us have stories from our youth.

These footprints and stories are mine.

This has been such a wonderful experience for me. I am excited to finally make it available to you. Can you imagine going back to your roots and reliving your youth? You see yourself once again grow up and you see yourself make mistakes. You see your heart get broken and you experience the loss of loved ones. However, you also get to relive the good things and the friendships that were such a big part of your life. That is what I have relived by writing these stories.

My hope is that those of you that will take the time to read this book will come away with an appreciation of another place and time. Maybe your memories will be stirred, and you can relate to my journey to once again find the footprints of your youth.

If you would like a copy of the book, I am extending the offer of a pre-sale price for it at $10.00 each. The retail price of the book will be 12.99 plus tax and shipping. To take advantage of the pre-sale of $10.00 that will include tax and delivery to your house, please send an email to footprintpublishing@gmail.com to get more details.

Thank you!!!

This Changes Everything

Image result for EASter MorningFor He rescued us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of His Beloved Son!

The reason Christians celebrate Easter is it changed everything. It changed the world and eternity. It changed our lives from despair to hope. It changed our citizenship from the kingdom of darkness to the kingdom of His Beloved Son. 

When Christ rose from the dead it declared to the world He had won!  He won the victory over sin, death, despair and the enemy.  When He rose from the dead eternity changed!  Literally.

Jesus was the only one to ever rise from the dead to a new kind of life and promised that same life to those who trust Him. 

Easter is special because it means death has been defeated, life has won. Darkness has fled from the light of his glory. Sin’s power over us has been defeated and our sins have been forgiven… all of them!  Even the ones we haven’t done yet.

Jesus made it possible for us to be a child of God!  There is no other faith, no other religion that offers life, forgiveness, hope and promise like the Christian faith offers. 

Now, because of Jesus, because of Good Friday and Easter morning, anyone…and I mean anyone can become a child of God.

Transferred from death to life.

Transformed from sinner to saint.

Transferred from darkness to light.

Transformed from despair to joy.

All because Jesus died and rose again.

He is the God you are looking for. 

Will you trust Him?

Will you invite Him to rescue you and forgive your sins? 

It’s free to anyone.

All you have to do is ask.

Words Hurt

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The words slipped out before I could stop them.

As soon as I heard myself, I knew I shouldn’t have spoken them.

Once again, my mouth spoke before I thought about the impact of what I was saying.

I just proved that we were taught a lie when our mothers’ told us “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

Words hurt. I know this. I have been hurt and I have scars caused by the words that have been spoken about me over the years.

And yet, I said them anyway.

The words that were not mine to say. I had my reasons.  See, I knew that the person I was telling could really help the one we were talking about.

The person didn’t know these things that I shared and I thought they should know.

Then it dawned on me.

I should not be the source of gossip. It is not my job.

Gossip dressed up as a caring concern.

We’re good at that! Using the guise of prayer requests to divulge information that is not ours to share.  We say, out loud, how we want God to work in this other person’s life, and yet all the while having that finger-pointing outward, towards another. Pointing out someone else’s sin with accusations and hearsay.

There is a fine line between gossip and sharing with the body of Christ those things that are needed.

This particular day, the line was quite a fuzzy one. But as soon as I said it, I could feel the spikes and shards of gossip on the edges of the words that hung in the air.

I know I am still a work in progress, but this sure is a tough area for me.

Finding myself in this same place where I have been before does not feel good at all.

I thought I was a quick learner. I still have a long way to go and I need to control my tongue and the words that come out of my mouth.

Words hurt.

 

 

Summer Nights in Oak Harbor

Summer nights can never be as good as they were when you were young.

Especially in the confines of our sleepy little town in NorthwesImage result for oak harbor ohio historyt Ohio.

The feeling of freedom after the last day of school that stretched across three blissful sunburnt months doesn’t quite have an equivalent in adulthood.

When I reminisce about my childhood summers, I think of the smell of sun and sweat on my skin after playing outside all day long. I think of the sizzle of sparklers and the big colorful explosions of fireworks with their sulfuric scent lingering in the air on July 4th celebrations at Veterans Park. 

I think of the smell of chlorine and blood-shot eyes from swimming in Teagarden’s pool.

I think of cupping my small hands around fireflies and dropping them into mason jars, little pieces of summer I wish I could have treasured forever.

As a young child, the highlight of each summer was marked by the annual county fair. For several days in July, kiddie rides, games of chance, concession stands, and fun houses were erected in the heart of our county.  Unlike some of my friends,Image result for Amusement ride swings that would go to the fair every day,  I was only able to get to the fair one day during that week.  I looked forward to it for months.  I look back at the time now and realize that my anticipation for the event was much more exciting than the real thing.  When my day finally came around, I spent my day shoving cotton candy in my mouth, riding the giant swing ride over and over and going to look at all of the animals.

At the end of the day, I’d crawl sleepy-eyed into the backseat clutching cheap trinkets won playing “everyone is a winner” carnival games.  It was the highlight of my year.

As my summers accumulated and I advanced towards junior high,  summer life became all about friends. My small group of friends and I rode our bikes all over town on long summer days, creating our own adventures to shake up this small town life.  Life was filled with Little League baseball and the strange realization, but not ready to admit just yet, that girls weren’t so yucky after all.

The only fear we had in life was getting home before the street lights came on. Never had a worry that our picture might wind up on a “missing child” milk carton. We were only bound by the town limit signs and we felt like our town was ours and ours alone.  There were nights that our gaze would try to look past those town limit signs. We were slowly coming to an understanding that there was a life beyond what our eyes could see. 

We bought candy by the fistful at the W.R. Thomas 5-10 store.  All that sugar would fuel late-night sleepover conversations.  I am reminded of the arctic chill of basement floors and how we’d seek refuge from the damp heat by spreading our sleeping bags out over the floor.  The lights turned off and there was just enough glow from the black and white, three-channel TV for our time of telling stories and lies to each other. 

Tucked in a sleeping bag on a friend’s cold basement floor, summer nights had the effect of a sacred place. We would talk about our plans for the next day, told scary stories and made fun of each other in an attempt to make ourselves feel better.  Usually, that would always cross the line somewhere along the conversation and we would have to break up a fight every now and then. 

Midnight felt so late and so adult.

Image result for Kids gathered in the basementSometimes, as we fought to keep our eyes open to see who could stay up the latest and after we would hear that familiar yell come down the stairwell “to keep it quiet down there” would then start the conversations of our dreams of what we would become when we got older. 

Dreams of becoming a professional baseball player had not yet been dashed upon the rocks of reality. We believed they could come true for all of us.  We could, in fact, all play professionally and we all would play on the same team. Like the pickup games in our backyard, we were only limited by what we dreamed.  We would talk until our conversations drifted off into sleep.

In the morning, none of us would dare talk about our late night conversations.  We knew that any further discussion in the light of day would jinx the possibilities.  It was a pact that we all believed but never discussed.  It all felt surreal, for now, our dreams were safe from the rocks of reality. Protected from the light of day, forever stowed away with the moon. 

Each summer day marked by the bike race to Van Atta’s Dairy Queen to get our .25 ice cream cone.  Then we would mad dash it to Yeisley’s field to play baseball until we would get too hot to play and then if we did not have a game that night, we would make our daily trip to the pool.  We never swam on game days.  We were told we couldn’t because it would make us too tired and we would not be able to play at the top of our game. We were convinced that the lifeguards were going to call our coachBAseballes. 

On game days we would ride our bikes to the pool.  Although we would die before before we would acknowledge the truth, none of us would admit of going just to see the girls. We would lie and say we would go to see the fun we were missing with our other friends that did not have a game.  We would stare through the fence for a while then slowly head home one-by-one to rest up for the game.

Baseball was life during that time. We never considered that there had never been one player in our small town that ever made it but for now, our dreams were safely protected by the belief of the certainty of the young and naive.

Summer still ended with the fair. But instead of playing games and riding rides, the focus had shifted.  We now walked around the fair. We walked in packs.  We were all just walking around trying to look cool.

We weren’t.

However, there was strength in numbers.  Even though not one of us would ever admit to it, our pack walked around, hopeful to run into the group of Jr High girls that were gathered safely in their own pack.  We would walk until we grew tired.  Tired of daring each other to do outlandish acts. Tired of acting like little immature kids. Tired of trying act like we were older than we were.

The truth was… we really wanted to go ride the rides like we did when we were little.

But here we were, suspended somewhere between childhood and being a teenager.  It was all wrapped up in the security of living in a place and time where time seemed to stand still.  All the people and all the houses that surrounded you were as familiar as the things in your own room. You believed it would always stay the same.

The dreams of life beyond the town limits of Oak Harbor were still off in the distance.

But as much as we believed, something deep inside of us knew the truth. Slowly changImage result for Oak Harbor ohio picturese was happening. Soon enough, little league baseball would end and we were made to face the reality that only a hand full of my friends would continue to play baseball in high school. 

I wasn’t one of them.

I suddenly had the overwhelming feeling that I walked out of my childhood and into the next phase of my life.  I wasn’t ready. I wanted to stay there, in the comfort of the summer nights of Oak Harbor. But I knew I couldn’t.  I was now fourteen.  I slept under a roof that belonged to someone else, in a bed my father bought.

Nothing was mine, except my fears. And my growing knowledge that not every road was going to lead home anymore.

Things were changing.  I would hear some of my own friends start to talk about making plans on leaving the safety of our hometown.  I started to hear the other side of growing up in Oak Harbor.  The negative.  In my mind and memories, the place was perfect, almost sacred. 

Looking back, I know it wasn’t perfect and obviously not sacred.

It was clear that my feelings were found in a place that was caught up in the reluctance to move from the 1950’s to the 1970’s.

Before I knew it, I found myself in High School.

Going to the fair was now focused on running into other kids from school and seeing who had coupled up or broken up over the last few months, triumphs or casualties of summer.

We no longer walked in packs.  I would usually hang with just one of my friends.  It kept the competition down and I would not have to be embarrassed by that one friend that always acted like an idiot.

During fair week, when the sun went down, that magical familiar feeling of youth slipped over me once again. Those exciting feelings of not knowing what would happen next.

There was the possibility that the crush you had might see you and smile at you. 

When it looked like no one was around, we worked up the courage to go on the Kamikaze, a ride that shuttled you in giant, nauseating upside-down loops. I screamed at the top of my lungs while “Do Ya” by the Electric Light Orchestra blasted through the ride’s crappy speakers, and I felt like a badass.

I wasn’t.

At the time, there was no greater heartbreak than when the fair packed up and left town with all of your wishes still unfulfilled.

That last night at the fair, in the darkness of night, we walked home from the Image result for The moon in the distancefairgrounds. 

Our ride left us and we had no choice but to walk the 4 miles back to Oak Harbor.

The only light coming from the moon. 

I was deep in thought and walking to the town I grew up in.  I realized that there was a time I knew every family on the block.  Their kids, names of their dogs, but most of those families were gone now. 

Scattered. 

The ones who stayed were not the same.  The world was moving on. 

Only the lights remained the same.

Maybe I was starting to realize that growing up doesn’t have to be so much a straight line.  Maybe a life was a series of advances and retreats.  Maybe I was learning that I was growing up too fast.  Maybe it was the fact that I was missing something about my childhood. 

But I could not shake the feeling of loss on the long walk home. 

Eventually, I made my way home.  I walked slowly.  Walking past each one of those houses, called homes, I started to realize something.  I was beginning to understand that in each home, with its Ford parked out front and its white bread on the table and TV set glowing blue in the falling night, there were people with stories. There were families bound together in the pain and the struggle to make it in life.  I was just starting out on my journey to figure out what life was really about.  After growing up in Oak Harbor, protected by the outside world, I wasn’t even sure I knew what “real” life was anymore, but I knew I had a lot to learn and my quest to finally find it was a long way off.

Walking up to my driveway, I noticed what a beautiful night it was – lit by the moon.  The world smelled fresh and clean.  I turned the handle of the front door and opened it.  Like always, there was my mom sitting at the kitchen table reading the newspaper.  As I walked into the room, she put her paper down and stood up.  I could see in her eyes that she knew that I had a tough night.  She gave me a big hug.  She never said a word and neither did I.  We didn’t have to, for in that moment I felt like a kid again.  Life and all of its responsibilities were knocking on the door. But for tonight, they would have to wait.

I never went to the fair again.

Summers took on a whole new level of gravity. Jobs replaced summer freedom–real ones, not the mowing lawns or lifeguarding for the minimum wage of the past. The cycle of seasons felt like it accelerated a little bit more each year, like a record playing on the wrong setting.  Most people I knew had long abandoned the town limits of Oak Harbor. The town was now different.  Van Atta’s had long since been sold. W.R. Thomas closed its doors.

Except for the hardware store, the familiar storefronts of Water Street were now empty.

Years have become decades, and my early memories have lost their sharp edges. 

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But I can still recall the names of the old stores in town.  I can still remember reading magazines at the counter and ordering no better cheeseburger and fries in the world than the one I would get at Van Atta’s restaurant. Especially for $1.25. 

I can still remember the way my heart would race when I knew it was a baseball game day.  Or the feeling of pure joy of being flanked by my best friends on our bikes. It was our first taste of freedom–to be able to take ourselves anywhere within the town limits, powered by the adrenaline pumping through our veins with each spin of our silver spokes.

I wish I could have bottled all those feelings all of those years ago, like those fireflies in a mason jar. To once again feel that youthful freedom and the delicious possibility of how any given night might end.

I’d open the lid and breathe in the smallest sample in order to make it last.

The good and even the bad aspects of growing up in Oak Harbor would never taint my belief that it was a wonderful way to grow up.

As an adult, how I long for the summer nights of Oak Harbor.

Christmas Morning Sunrise

It’s Christmas morning.

The sun is just creeping over the horizon and I’ve been up for hours.  Image result for winter Morning Sunrise

Reading.  Thinking.  Praying. Wondering. Writing.

How great is this love we celebrate today, that God would give His Son for us?

How amazing it is that He would love us. 

Sadly, I take it too lightly at times.

I celebrate the day with family, friends, food, and gifts.

But I forget the love that should overwhelm me with joy, amazement, and worship.

How amazing is the God who loved us so much?

I wonder if I will ever really understand how great His love really is?

 

Angels… Every Once in a While

Winter was unforgiving in 1970.

It had nothing to do with the weather but rather, the turmoil and trauma that our family was experiencing. No one in my family was looking forward to Christmas. We were less than a month from the tragic car-train accident that took the lives of our brother and cousin. How could we experience the joys that are associated with the season? It would be just another reminder that there were missing members of our family and emotionally none of us were in a place where we could handle that. So, my family decided thaChristmastreet we would take a trip to Florida to visit my grandparents. It was an escape from the obvious and while we knew that we still would never view Christmas the same way as we did previously, we knew that changing the scenery would at least provide enough distraction so we could get through the Holiday season.

We would take that trip and spend the holiday down in Florida. I guess it served its purpose and we made it through  Christmas and drove back to Ohio on New Year’s Eve. I don’t remember much about our time in Florida, other than giving my mom a present on Christmas day, and the memory of me, my mom and dad, along with my brother, Jim and my sister, Linda being crammed in a Volkswagen Beetle for endless hours as we drove there and back.

As a nine-year-old, I should have had the opportunity to experience a few more years of innocence and wonder when it came to the Christmas Season. I lost that magic that year and I never really got it back. I am not sure if it is the guilt that I feel but there is a part of me that simply does not like to receive presents. It makes me feel uncomfortable and I always struggle with not feeling deserving of presents. It started that year and I never asked for anything specific for Christmas ever again.

It didn’t start out that way. As a very young child, I would wait anxiouslRelated imagey for Christmas morning to wake everyone up. I always thought it to be my responsibility since it was the assumed job for the baby of the family. As I look through boxes of old Christmas decorations, I am reminded of the Christmas of my childhood. I can remember each one since I was four.  Every year, starting at Thanksgiving, my eager anticipation for the coming Christmas season.

My earliest memory of Christmas was when my great-grandmother was making her annual trip down to Florida to spend the winter months. It was late October and she dropped off her Christmas presents for all of us and we opened them early. After I opened my present, I was scurried off to bed and on my way, I said, “Merry Christmas, mommy.” This has always been something my brother has teased me about my entire life. I guess October was too early to wish my mommy a Merry Christmas.   

 I was always so excited about Christmas and I learned that it was getting close when Santa, in all his glory, would be waving to everyone from the top of the Oak Image result for santa on firetruckHarbor Fire truck as they paraded through our little town. 

As a child, I always thought is very suspicious that “Santa” would take time out of his busy schedule to ride around the little town of Oak Harbor. Considering that the only world that I knew as a child was defined by the town limit signs, it made perfect sense that he would pick Oak Harbor to start the celebrations, even if I was a little suspicious about it. 

I felt bad for the kids from other places because we had Santa here in our midst and they did not. All of us kids would be lined up — pressing our noses against the cold glass of the picture window, waving at Santa as he made his trek around town. Every child filled with visions of Christmas. Presents dancing in their heads and memories etched forever in remembrance.

It might just be my imagination, but it seems as if there were more homes with Christmas lights back in the day. As a kid, I would always look forward to the time when we would drive through town looking at all the lights strung across Water

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Street in the downtown area, as well as the many neighborhoods that were lit up. I still drive around Oak Harbor sometimes just to see the lights. It makes me feel rooted, a part of something in my past.

I remember that back then spending time “uptown” during the Christmas season was a celebration. Long before the “Mall” killed the small-town businesses, each local store would display sale items in their front windows. We would go window shopping to find items for our wish list. I can remember a year when I would stop and stare at this pair of ice skates in the Western Auto store window. I just knew that this pair of skates would make me the fastest skater at Gleckler’s Pond. Oh, how I wanted them, Image result for 1960 ice skatesbut as Christmas came and went, the skates stayed in the window. We just couldn’t afford them.

Each year, especially as we get older, things change and it’s during the holiday season is when you realize them.  Most of the stores that once lined Water Street are no longer in existence. The 5 and 10 of W.R. Thomas, The Portage Store, Van Atta’s Restaurant, Lantz’s Rexall Drug Store, Western Auto, Felhaber’s Photography, Nehls Market, Faunce’s Furniture, Hutchison Jewelry and the Modernette Gift Store to name a few.

To this very day, it brings a pain to a place in your heart where all your hidden feelings go.  You mask it as “progress” but in your heart, you know that pieces of your childhood are fading into lost memories. Never to be remembered except for a picture or two.  My children and grandchildren have been cheated. They will never get that experience of window shopping the same way I did as a child.

I always remember running down the steps on Christmas morning and looking around the tree for the biggest box. I always believed that within the biggest box under the tree would be the most expensive gift and best gift.

I always hoped it would be for me. But as time works its magic over the years on the mind and soul of a young man, I soon realized that every gift was special, unique, presentand meaningful. It wasn’t about the size of the gift but rather the act of giving that brings the best feelings and memories of Christmas mornings. In fact, the presents that I remember most are the gifts that came directly from the heart. Christmas truly is not about the gift itself, but rather the thought behind the gift.

I learned this truth on a cold evening a few days before we left for Florida for Christmas in 1970.  It had been a little more than a month since the accident and my mom was trying to go through the motions of the season for us kids but as you can imagine there wasn’t a lot to be happy about.

I was nine. It was easier for me to be distracted by the celebration of the season than it was for my parents and my older brother and sister. But I knew. I knew that my mom was not the same. It was a struggle and she was drowning in the overwhelming loss of a child. I cannot think of anything more tragic. A parent is not supposed to out-live their child. It is something that I hope my family never has to experience again.

I could see that my mom was different. The sparkle in her eyes that I always remembered had dimmed. My nine-year-old mind tried to think of a way where I could make her smile again. I had never given my mother a present that I did not Related imagemake on a piece of paper or a craft made at school. At that time, I really liked to color and draw and make abstract pictures. So, I sat down and did my very best to make the best picture I have ever done in my life.  I was sure it would make all the difference in the world.  

As a father, some of the most precious gifts I have ever received were the scribblings on a piece of paper made by my children. But when your nine you start to think there is no value in that, so you want to do more. I looked at my picture that I put all my energy and creative energy in to and I just thought it would come up short in making my mom happy again.

I had saved $1.25 and I knew what I had to do. I had to go uptown and find her the perfect present. Something that would make her “smile” again.

Oh… the thoughts of a nine-year-old boy.

Somehow, I convinced someone to walk me uptown on that snowy afternoon. I was armed with cash and I was on a mission.

The Hardware Store was my first stop.  As a child, when I would walk into the store, I would take a big whiff.  I loved the smell of the hardware store. I was never quite sure what made those smells so intoxicating. Maybe it was the hot, oily machine parts from some of the equipment that they sold or just the decades-old hardwood floors of the store. I can only imagine how many spills of paint, turpentine, and oils that floor has absorbed. It’s now toxic aroma is just hanging limply in the air along with metal nail dust, shiny tools, and plastic snow shovels. Yes, even as a child, as I walked those old hardware aisles, I soaked in memories. I remember clearly the creaking wooden floor and that jingle-jangly door clang as the door shut behind you. It was nostalgic then and even more so today.

I didn’t find anything at the Hardware store for my mom that I could afford so we moved on to the 5 & 10 store. Now, one would think I could find something in that store for my mom. I just could not decide and was overwhelmed with all the options. I was confused and wasn’t satisfied with any of my choices.

I suddenly found myself in Lantz’s Rexall Drug Store. I was sure I was wasting my lantztime there. The high school girl who worked there was trying so hard to find me something in my price range to get for my mother. It simply wasn’t going to happen. I would have to go back to W. R. Thomas and sift through the options and find something back there.

It was at that moment that I now realize that when you least expect it, angels appear every once in a while.

I hear a voice cmcbainoming from the high window where a man was always standing whenever I was in the store. I never saw him ever come out from behind that Pharmacy window.

He asked me, “Are you one of the Lee boys?”

“Yes, sir,” I said.

He came out from behind that window and walked towards me.

He said, “How can I help you, young man?”

“Well sir, I am looking for a present for my mom.”

 “How much do you have to spend?” he asked.

“All I have is $1.25,” I replied.

“What are you looking for son?

I said, “I am not sure, but I want to get her something special.” 

He paused for a moment, looking around the store for options when He asked, “Does she like perfume?” 

“Yes sir, but I do not have enough money to buy something like that.”

He reached up on the top shelf of the perfumes and grabbed a bottle and opened it and let me smell it. He said, “Do you like this one?”  I nodded in approval.

He looked at me and said, “Well son, this is your lucky day.”

With a big, kind smile, he said, “This went on sale today and it costs exactly $1.25.”

The high school girl who worked there wrapped my present and I gave the man my money and thanked him. As I walked out the door, I looked back, and I saw him still looking at me and smiling. I smile back, and he says, “Merry Christmas, son.”

As a nine-year-old, I thought it blind luck to get such an expensive gift for my mom. It surpassed all my expectations. I have no idea how much that perfume cost, but I know it was more than the $1.25 that I paid for it.

Almost 50 years later, I realize that Mr. Mac McBain was an angel sent to help a little boy try to bring some joy back to a family that had experienced tragedy. It was all he could do. 

I gave that present to my mom on Christmas Day. She smiled when she opened Image result for 1970 bottle of drugstore perfumeit. One of the first smiles I remember from her in a long time. She smiled to make me feel special. Now I know it didn’t make everything ok and my mom wasn’t instantly happy again. But as a young boy, it was all I had to offer.  

Angels… every once in a while.

I believe that God allows it to happen just enough in our lives to allow us to keep faith in a loving God and the ability to hold on to the hope for a better world.

My angel that year was Mr. McBain. He made the difference in a little boy who just wanted to make his mother smile again.

It made December 25, 1970, feel a little bit more like Christmas.

Merry Christmas everyone. Hug your family a little tighter this year.

 

God Doesn’t Pick Sides… We Do

I was a Christian school principal in a former life.  I protect the memories of that time very carefully.  Some aspects of that period of time I hold near and dear to my https://i2.wp.com/images.classmates.com/yearbooks/9/b/9/f/9b9fd00c8bdbd4fa345ee4d5226cbf0b/155/0001.jpgheart. However, most of it I choose to not remember and I do my best to forget and block out that period of time in my life.  Not because I hated the experience but rather I learned quickly to let things stay in the past.

Things just did not turn out as I planned. I was planning on the rest of my life being involved in education and being an avenue in helping young people get a Christian education and be prepared for whatever they faced in their future. I didn’t get fired or forced out, it simply did not end the way I wanted it to. 

That does not mean I am bitter.  I’m not.  The bitterness faded away years ago.

Every once in a while, one of those distant, hidden memories come creeping up and sometimes appear in my dreams.

One of those memories I wish I would never remember is one that I experienced at a basketball game in the late 80’s.  It actually had nothing to do with the game itself.  I was coaching the game and the game was playing itself out in the normal fashion. No real drama or problems.  Just friendly competition on the court. 

Those of you that are familiar with the competition that takes place between two Christian schools, things can quickly take a turn for the worst that can be found in high school athletics.  However, this time it wasn’t happening on the court.  It was happening on the sidelines. 

Just before the start of the fourth quarter of play, the cheerleaders from the opposing team started a cheer.  Their fans were all standing and really showing their “Spirit” in support of their team and that cheer.

It is then I hear the cheer.  The cheerleaders were chanting out the words of their Image result for Temple christian CHEERLEADERS ON THE SIDELINE in basketballcheer to their fans and players that “God was on their side!!!”  Yes… they were cheering and proclaiming that God was in fact only on “their side” implying that He wasn’t on our side.  It was loud and it was obnoxious. It is was among the worst things that could be seen in a Christian school.  I had heard that some schools did this but I thought it was just a joke.

It wasn’t a joke and it was pointed at our school. 

There are mostly two kinds of people in this world: the kind that thinks God is always for them and the kind that think God is always against them.

These also are the same people who think that God cares about the touchdown their team just scored or the game-winning basket made in the final seconds.

Personally… I don’t think God much cares about what team is playing on the court or on the field. I am sure He is not in any way concerned about how many pointsteamwins your team scored and even less concerned about how many points you may have personally scored.

I know, I don’t like it any more than you do. 

I’d like to think that God would be behind and “help” all my teams I cheer for.

But that simply is not the truth.  God doesn’t care if my team wins.

I could go on.  In fact, most of the Old Testament attests to the fact that God doesn’t unequivocally endorse anyone, not even those who are supposedly especially tight with Him.

God doesn’t jump on our “team” or any another team.

Why not? Especially this side of the cross, shouldn’t He always be in our corner if we are Christians?

That is logically impossible, just think of how many times you and another believer are on different sides of an issue – how could God be “for” both of you at the same time?  God knows how fickle people are, even believers. He knows how we can worship Him with all our hearts one minute and be nose-deep in sin the next.

Is it any wonder He won’t support us or anyone else unequivocally?

The reality is God doesn’t pick sides.

We do. 

 

Eternity Awaits All of Us

By now, I am sure that you heard that Charles Manson died.

Last night, I watched a documentary on his life. I have seen many of these shows and they are all basically the same, except this one.  This one took an in-depth look at his childhood.  It didn’t spend a whole lot of time talking about the infamous murders that are known as the Tate/LaBianca murders that took place in August of 1969.

What a horrific life this man had as a child. It no way https://i0.wp.com/i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2013/10/09/article-0-189C384700000578-511_634x495.jpgforgives or excuses his actions that he did throughout his life.  I know there have been many children who have had it just as bad and they did not grow up to be responsible for mass murder. But it makes me wonder what he would have done with his life had it been different for him as a child.

Over the last few days, I’ve read many jeering and cruel comments on media sites celebrating his death and wishing him well in hell. But I must be honest. I do not celebrate his death. 

I get it.  Charles Manson should have paid a heavier price for his actions.  He lived a long life, while those he affected did not get that chance. I do not believe that “justice” was done to him on this earth for his crimes.

But I do not celebrate his death.  I grieve for all of the lives that this man negatively influenced.  How many lives were destroyed, hurt and forever changed by this one man?

Sin destroys so much, it’s sad when it destroys our humanity as well.

As a believer, I am sad to know of anyone’s death without Christ.  

I know, from reading scripture, that God grieves as well.

‘As I live!’ declares the Lord God, ‘I take no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but rather that the wicked turn from his way and live. Turn back, turn back from your evil ways!  Ezekiel 33:11

There is a God who rules the heavens and eternity.  There is a judgment coming. There is a heaven and hell.  I don’t claim to understand the justice of all of it, but I do know God is good and I trust Him to be more than “fair” to each of us.

For a few years on earth, Manson destroyed, ridiculed and killed. 

Now he faces eternity.

Charles Manson now faces God’s judgment and will live an eternity having to face true justice.

No different from Charles Manson, one day… we will face God and have to answer for what we did with Jesus Christ.  Did we accept Him or reject Him?  

Eternity awaits all of us.

 

The Veil of Forgiveness

Normally, I remember people when I have spoken with them— especially when I have seen their name in print. I’ve had a pretty good track record of at least recognizing that I have met someone before, even if I don’t exactly recall the setting.

This week, however, I experienced something new to me.

A few weeks ago, I wrote about forgiveness.  I shared how forgiveness is a process for us.  God forgives differently than we do.  He forgives us fully and completely, https://i2.wp.com/fpchackensack.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/Forgiveness.jpgbut man does not. The human aspect of forgiveness is a process that we must work on each day of our life.

I wrote that article based upon my perspective of forgiving someone who has offended me. However, I was exposed to an aspect of forgiveness that, for some reason, I never really had to deal with before.

This week I had someone call me and ask for my forgiveness. 

His first words were, “I am calling to ask you to please forgive me.”

Now, that isn’t the aspect that surprised me.  What surprised me is that this person was carrying a burden that I had no idea that he was carrying. I had no recollection of what he was referencing to and as a matter of fact I totally forgot ever meeting him.

On the phone call, he said to me, “David, you remember me, right?”

I didn’t remember him, so I asked him where we met.

He was a sales representative from a company that I had done business with through my work. For several years, I worked as the purchasing manager and we had met a time or two during that time.

When he told me, I was totally astonished. I had totally forgot about him and the event.

First of all, I was surprised that I didn’t recognize him, although it had only been a few years since our meeting. Secondly, I was even more shocked that I didn’t remember him because our earlier meeting was not a good one.

His company had failed to provide the product we had purchased through him.  It caused us to shut down our line and it cost us money.  He was defiant and blamed everyone else. He took no responsibility for the failure. As a matter of fact, he tried to turn it around and blamed me for the failure.  I remember now that he was rude and hateful and as soon as we got our line back up and running, I resourced the part to another company.

Shortly after the event, I moved on.  For me, it was business and not personal. I forgot about it. I never gave him a second thought.

For him, he made it personal.  He was young and brash and inexperienced. The way he handled the situation cost him a huge account for his company.  What I didn’t know was that it also cost him his job as well.

I had no idea that apparently, he has been carrying bitterness towards me since that time.

On his call, he told me that he was a very different person back then, he had changed and that he had been trying to figure out how he could get a hold of me and clear his conscience.  Apparently, I wasn’t the only one he was contacting.  He stated that he was asking for my forgiveness.

I wanted to tell him that there wasn’t anything to ask for forgiveness for.  But I remembered what I wrote, and I let him talk.  This wasn’t about me.  It was about a man who had come to the point in his life that he needed to unload some guilt and regret from his youth.

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I instantly felt nothing but complete forgiveness. I could tell he wasn’t sure I meant it, but I genuinely did forgive him. I hope his burden is lighter today than what he has experienced. 

Two lessons come to mind.

First, how easy it is to forgive someone when one gets to see the other in a fully positive light.

Second, how important it is to not allow the past to be a filter for the present. 

I am so grateful that I was not biased by my previous encounters, and able to completely embrace this new setting without preconceived thoughts. It is so easy to put labels on others.

There is a veil to this thing called forgiveness.  It covers everyone differently. We all need to deal with the aspect of forgiveness.  Forgiving those that offended us and asking for forgiveness to those we hurt and offended.  It also opens the door to offer forgiveness to those that carry burdens and hurts we knew nothing about.

Thankfully, for whatever reason, I am happy for him because things will turn out in a much better way. 

Forgiveness is so much easier without the hurt attached.

My prayer is that the veil of forgiveness forever rules in my mind and in my heart.

How about you?