I have been attending church pretty much every Sunday since I was nine years old.
I am not unique in that… I am sure many of you who are reading this can say the same thing.
My church did indeed preach the Gospel.
Salvation was offered to those that trusted in Jesus Christ and believed that He was born of a virgin, lived a perfect, sinless life and was crucified on the cross to pay for the debt of sin that mankind had committed. He rose from the grave three days later and now sits at the right Hand of God. All an individual had to do was ask the Lord for forgiveness and accept Him into their life.
This is still what I believe.
However, growing up in a church that tied the reality of your relationship with Jesus Christ based more upon the length of your hair and your basic overall appearance is not what everyone else experienced.
The church during that period of time was caught up in what was commonly called “legalism”. The word “legalism” does not occur in the Bible. It is a term used to describe a belief that emphasizes a system of rules and regulations for achieving spiritual growth and evidence of salvation.
The truth is, however, even true believers can be legalistic. As a believer who has endured the worst that can come from the judgment from other believer’s, I can speak with authority on this subject because I am a recovering legalist.
I spent a good portion of my life judging other people in their walk with Jesus Christ. For many years, I sat back and did my spiritual evaluation of other believer’s, all the while my own spiritual flaws were masked and hidden by my own self-righteousness. It is one of the greatest shames I carry in my life.
I have always said that my greatest failure in life was not the fact that my first marriage ended in divorce. My greatest failure is that I was part of something that judged and hurt those that struggled in this life.
I am a recovering authority on the subject of legalism. However, it is not the intent of this post to cover all the issues that come with this subject but I do want to discuss a few of them.
I have always referred to the principles of legalism as “the list”.
It was the first thing we gave to new converts. The list was made up of all the things that you were supposed to do and not supposed to do if you wanted to keep God happy and remain spiritual.
Most of the things on the list were good things—some of them even came right out of the Bible.
But some of them didn’t.
They were passed along to me from several sources, some from the traditions of my church, some from my training and education but mostly they were instilled in me by my Pastor. I was “taught” that if I did the things on the list that my life would be good. It was like a bill of goods…if you invested yourself into keeping the list you could reap the benefits of God’s blessings and find true happiness in this life. I bought it… hook line and sinker.
The “list” really came down to one question: “Real Christians don’t ______?'”(You fill in the blank).
Jesus died and rose again, martyrs were split in two, and the Church has prevailed for almost two thousand years against the gates of hell so that Christians today can live out this ever important testimony to a waiting, watching world to tell themselves that… Real Christians don’t ____?
Well, I believe it’s time to get a few things straight. The world isn’t waiting for Christians; the world doesn’t care.
In fact, by a large margin it is only other Christians that care about what other Christians do or don’t do.
Why have Christians made such an important issue out of keeping to this list? I believe it’s because we want something clearly identifiable that will distinguish us from the world. We want to be different. We want being “born again” to evidence itself in some clear, tangible way in our world.
That much is good, but Godly men and women have historically distinguished themselves in much more important ways than keeping a list of do’s and don’ts.
Christianity gravitated to this list of do’s and don’ts because it spells out the distinctiveness so clearly. However, the problem and the danger at hand is that being born again can become a simple matter of following a prescribed formula as opposed to living a vibrant joyful walk with Jesus Christ.
Not that there aren’t any do’s and don’ts in the Christian faith.
The New Testament is full of directives for Godly behavior. But the Biblical guidelines are much different from the ones found in popular Christianity, and it doesn’t take a genius to figure out the difference.
The rules for behavior in the Bible deal with less noticeable things and it involves commands which are harder to fulfill than the non-issues that we have created for our own Christian identity. So we need to ask ourselves a few questions…
- Which is easier to follow: Real Christians don’t envy or Real Christians don’t dance?
- Which one gets noticed first: Real Christians don’t lust or Real Christians don’t smoke?
- Which is harder to comply with: Real Christians love their enemies or Real Christians go to church on Sundays?
To tell a believer that they cannot dance, smoke and that they should go to church each and every Sunday is easy to define and expect from a believer. Obviously aspects of behavior such as envy, lust and loving our enemies are so much harder to define and to follow.
I can maintain the “list” and still fail in the envy, lust and loving my enemy’s part and many other tenets of God’s desire for my life.
Truth is…I believe maintaining a list of do’s and don’ts is a dangerous way to assume Holiness and approval from God.
But that is not how the legalist sees it. The legalist creates their own manageable system of weighing and measuring people. They become like the Pharisees, who regulated righteousness into a long, involved list of steps and procedures, cumbersome indeed, but fulfillable.
So, in many of our churches, I’m afraid it comes down to maintaining this list of: Real Christians don’t ______ for many believer’s. They never have to grow past the need for the list and never really have the need to learn or experience what grace truly is. There isn’t any need for them to do so.
Don’t you think Jesus Christ died for something more?
That being said… many of the principles on the list were good ways to live your life and I am sure good ways to keep you on the right path. But surely they were not absolutes as they were presented.
More importantly none of them had virtually nothing to do with my salvation. Without sounding like an immature Christian, the length of my hair, the music I listened to or the fact that I went to the “movies” should not have defined my Salvation. What it actually did was reduce my spiritual walk to a list of bare-minimums-I-have-to-do-to-be-a-Christian.
I struggled with keeping up to the tenets of the list. My spiritual life was at best “yo-yo” Christianity. Keep the tenets and all was good… fail at one and you were failing and falling fast away from God.
My walk with the Lord was filled with up’s and downs. Mostly downs because I couldn’t keep up to the standard of the list. It did not keep me from trying…I was taught the list was the key to my successful walk with Christ.
The problem was what the list did to my Christianity. It became way too much about performance, and not enough about the reality of having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. “Spirituality” became more of an issue of conformity and obedience rather than living out the fruits of the Spirit as God intended.
The progression of the list leads to what I call “the line”.
The line is when you consistently keep the tenets of the list. When a person kept enough of the list to be what they felt was “spiritual” they could draw a line of distinction between themselves and from those who did not. If a person could make it to the line, he could feel good about himself and his personal relationship with God.
By measuring up to the line, a person could feel like he was good with God. And he could also feel like he was better than others. I cannot help but think of it as spiritual arrogance.
But sadly “the line” leads to “the look”.
Appearances became the most important part of life. And what was seen on the outside was prioritized over what was happening on the inside.
It’s not that some good things weren’t happening on the inside in my life—they were. But things like peace, love and joy weren’t as important as the Bible says they should have been. And no one was judging my spirituality by that. They were judging me based upon the tenets of the “list” and how close I was to their “line”.
Both of these things made the “look” all the more important in my spiritual walk.
When you are a legalist, you spend a lot of time evaluating others, making sure they measure up. What does their “list” look like? Does their list include all the important things that are on my list? And where is their “line”? Is it up there where it should be? Or could I consider myself more spiritual since my line is higher? And do they “look” like they should? Or could I look down on them for looking weaker than me?
This evaluation was often called by some pastor friends as “fruit inspection,” which obviously refers to the verse in Matt. 7:20 where it states, “Therefore by their fruits ye shall know them.”
All masked in the name of spirituality, when in actuality it was judgmentalism.
Many Christians wait and watch to be entertained by the latest episode of spicy details in the rise and fall of another believer. What we have here is not just another failure of a believer but clearly an in-house problem among our body of believers as a whole.
From my personal experience, sometimes the greatest gossip opportunities are the very “prayer meetings” we have in some of our churches. Prayer requests masked in the intent to “share” a little of what we heard or know about the failure of another believer.
Nothing but plain gossip if you ask me… but that is another discussion for a different time and place.
One of the most troubling things about legalism is that it keeps us from growing to be totally dependent on God. Jesus saw legalism in the Pharisees. The Pharisees were known for their rules, but never for their discernment. Here’s the thing: When we depend on a checklist of rules to determine our decision-making process, there is no room for discernment. The Pharisees’ mindset would be “Give me the law. I want the rules so that I don’t step out-of-bounds.”
Following a checklist rules reveals something else: it reveals a lack of faith in God’s leading in the lives of others. It says, “My confidence is in man’s teachings” rather than in Christ alone. But God has a much better way. His way requires a daily surrendering of our will to His. His way bears fruit. It’s not burdensome and it’s not bound by legalism.
Ironically, I’ve been wrestling lately with the flip side of being a recovering legalist. I struggle with judging and being critical of those who are caught up in throes of legalism. I find myself making fun of them. I find myself even thinking that I am somehow superior to them because I see the error of their way and I found the right path.
This type of judgement is just as bad. It shows my attitude and posture towards other Christians in whom I perceive the tendencies of legalism. Christ has been so patient with me, yet I’ve not always been as patient with them.
Instead, I’ve become so preoccupied with what I perceive to be their tendencies toward an imbalanced judgement of others and a separatist denominational spirit that I’ve sometimes lost sight of God’s grace in their hearts and ministries. This too is a legalistic tendency and needs to be erased from my life.
I also see that attitude among other believer’s that have come out from that background. The very same haughtiness and judgment that I have witnessed in those that held to legalistic rules and regulations I see in those who are critical of legalism. They have no idea that they are just as guilty.
Thank God for Grace… after all, it’s His work, His power, and His presence in our everyday lives that becomes our true source of confidence and strength as we follow Him together.
I am still in recovery and I have a way to go. But now instead of keeping my eyes on the deeds and actions of others, I will fix my eyes on cross of Calvary. I am starting to see forgiveness much differently than I have in the past. In the past I would simply ask God to forgive my unforgiveness of others… the older I get I see that God wants me to ask forgiveness of those that I have something against. Like Jesus Christ who forgave those that betrayed Him, I need to forgive those that have done me wrong.
So if you can relate to this story, please let me know… there is strength in numbers. I need to continue my path to recovery and your invited to come along for the journey. Maybe we can all find forgiveness along the way.